Conceiving & the challenge!

It's been 18 months since I started my HAART. Without knowing, taking the pills is a part of my daily life now and I do not need the helps of my alarm to remind me. My biological clock works by itself now. Sharp at 10pm everyday, I will automatically swallow my pills!

The trauma of having to take pills everyday is no longer there. My wife is the biggest supporter. Only Allah knows how much I appreciate her effort. She never forget to remind even when I already did that myself. She even keep the tablets in her handbag, in case I forgot to bring when we went out.

We recently celebrated our first anniversary two weeks ago. Hehe. And we can't wait to have kids by our own. After 3 rounds of blood taking in my regular Hospital Sungai Buloh, the doctor give a green light to conceive naturally. I can loose the protection, and few tips were given to maximize the chances. To be fair, I was undetected after 6 month but the doctors still prevail me not to conceive, until the next 2 rounds of blood check-ups. This is to triple-confirm that I am really OK/safe.

But it is not as easy as that. I do not have major problem to 'make love' when using protection/condom but when I discard that, it struck me really bad. I'm soo scared that I might hurt her  or transmit what I have to her. And there you go, the thing that is supposed to be fun turned to be a nightmare. This happened few times until I am really exhausted, mentally. The trauma and the thoughts keep on coming and it distracts us again and again.

Luckily, she (with her medical background) did her reading, point out statistics and assure me that everything is gonna be fine. I am a 'safe' person, she said. And she don't mind to go through this together with me. Alhamdulillah, we manage to get things worked out. But yeah at this moment, Allah haven't give us the happiness yet. We are both busy, and the timing is not in our side. Haha. You know what I mean. We always missed the 'peak time', but we keep on trying.

Pray for us, all. And we always for everyone too. A good friend of mine proved that this gift is not an end. He did have babies, so why can't I right?